Secrets To Happiness

It is true that happiness is like a butterfly, the more you try to catch it the more it flies away and the moment you sit still it kisses you itself. However, even then people tend to look out for ways to attain happiness in life. It is not tough to know how to be happy, so here we are sharing with you some secrets to happiness.

The first secret to happiness is a good relationship. No matter, how rich you are and how bigger bank balance you have, if you lack a good relationship to share it all, you won’t feel happy. You need friends, relatives and spouse to be happy in life.

Another secret of leading a happy life is to inculcate a positive thinking. Yes, those who think positively can never be sad because they tend to see the positive things even in the most negative things of life.

Third amazing secret to happiness is the flow. Those who learn to flow with the changing times can never feel sad. Take it as a challenge to adapt yourself with the changing times and see how easily you remain happy with the flow of life.

Ways to save yourself from negative influences and live positively

There have been various instances in life when we allow negativity to take the better of us. A good number of people have lived in negativity for some part of their life or still continue to do so. There is an inherent feeling of negativity among all human beings which makes them afraid of expressing themselves for the fear of getting negative response.

The way you feel inside shows in the people around you and you would find the world happier only if you are happy yourself. The outcome of every situation in your life is dependent on you and affects you in some way or the other. So you must make a special effort to turn all your negative thoughts in a positive direction.

You should be able to alter your behavior to seek happiness and get rid of something that does bother you. Another way of keeping the negative feelings out of bay is to set goals and put in your best effort to achieve those goals. This would not only help you realize your dreams but would also make you happier.

Being open to others and taking their advice which may be helpful to you will also hold you in good stead in your life. Positive thinking is the key to a happier life and you must seize the moment and look to maximize the situation which makes you feel happy. It may seem important to please others but you must make sure that you are not doing that at the expense of your own happiness.

How to avoid being gullible

You think till date you suffered most due to your gullible nature? If this is the case and you have determined not to let others take undue advantage of your nature, then here are some tips of avoiding being gullible.

• First of all try to indulge in some mind exercise just like you indulge in physical exercises. This way you will develop your intellectual well-being.
• Put in some effort and time in learning about the variety of options you have to understand human psyche. This way you will get to know what others think about you.
• Avoid taking things at their face value. Instead of believing what you see, try to get in to the details of the things to test the reality. Don’t let personal appearance fool you.
• Develop critical thinking by reading different theories about critical thinking skills. This will help you analyze better in different situations of life.
• Put in some effort to learn about people through different techniques like Neuro-Linguistic Programming that lets you understand human psyche with generalization, distortion and meta-messages.

Try out these things and we are sure you will soon get away with your gullible nature

The concept of Psychodrama

Have you heard of the term Psychodrama? In case, you are not sure what this term means and what this whole concept is all about, then we are throwing some light on it. Developed by Jacob Levy Moreno, this concept is a concept that uses deep action methods for exploring and correcting issues identified by the psychotherapy group.

For this concept, usually those people are chosen, who bring forward their drama to enhance the dramatic enactment of the scenes. In other words, psychodrama is an experimental therapy allowing correction through re-experiencing and thereby, improving dynamically by expressions and role rehearsals.

The core thing to know about psychodrama is that it unfolds things in unpredictable ways to suggest something in an idealistic description. This concept helps clarifying issues to increase physical and emotional being for improved learning and skills. Various ways are used to employ psychodrama in a person.

The whole concept of psychodrama is divided into three distinct phases. The fist phase is the warm up phase and it is all about identifying a protagonist. The second phase is the action phase in which the problem is dramatized and the protagonist explores new methods of resolving it. Last phase is the sharing phase in which the group members are invited to express their connection with the main protagonist’s work.

Advice: Love After Loss

My boyfriend of seven years lost his mother to cancer after a four-month illness. At first, he was in denial but a month later he really started to withdraw. He became very distant, threw himself into work, and didn't seem to care about anything. He broke up with me three months to the day after his mother died, saying he wanted to find himself again and he has to do it alone. He wants me out of his life completely, and I am devastated. How could he turn his back on seven years together? He said the spark between us is gone. Did we break up because he is lost or because he fell out of love with me? I'm having a hard time coping.

You broke up because he is in intense pain and is trying to protect you from it. His first anchor in life died fairly rapidly, he is feeling lost, and his spark is probably gone for everything—at least for a while. Throwing himself into work can be a healthy way to cope with loss; it's a way to stay anchored with minimal emotional demands. The loss was relatively sudden; you don't know the things he never got to say to his mother and vice versa. It's all the more difficult because it came at a time of transition, after he lit out on his own but before he made his own lifetime commitment to a partner. He isn't turning his back on seven years; he is doing what all animals do when wounded—going off on his own to regroup. I'm sure it hurts to lose his attention, but this is a time when you need to take the focus off yourself and help him—not by pressing for attention but by letting him know you're available to talk whenever he wants and reassuring him that you'll be there for him when he is ready to rejoin the world of others.

Top 10 Ways For People To Break Up

There are a lot of things that you can tell to your partner in order to break up an existing relationship, but have in mind that there are only few of them that you will be able to use and be sure that you will not heart the feelings of your ex-partner. Remember that you got to have some respect for the person you used to date, because otherwise you can cause him or her lots of hard feelings. Furthermore, there are some simple ways that you can make your partner to break up with you, which will help you to save a lot of sadness for your partner. The top 10 ways that people use to break up: 1. One of the more popular ways to make your partner break up with you is to be annoying. There are a lot of ways that you will be able to do that, like for example forget her birthday and all the holidays that you have. Furthermore, you can learn some dumb catchphrases that you will have to repeat all the time. It is good idea to watch some old movies to find some that you can use. Eventually, your partner will break up with you, because he or she will not be able to stand you anymore. 2. Simply talk to her and explain why you will have to break up. Probably that is the best way to break up, because you will be honest and you will not use some of the modern technologies, like for example your mobile phone or your computer. Remember that if you use an e-mail or SMS to break up with your partner you will look as a coward. 3. Another possible solution is to move. However have in mind that this is not one of the bravest things that you can do, but it will have effect for sure. To make that happen you ill simply have to pack all your stuff and leave. 4. In most of the dating websites, sending dead flowers to your partner is a possible way to break up. However, remember that if you use that way for breaking up you will make your ex-partner feel really bad and you will never be able to look at him or her again. 5. Use one of the most common phrases for breaking up and that is “I love you, but only as a friend”. IF you tell that phrase to your partner, he or she will immediately see what you are trying to say. Although that you can hardly stay a friend with your ex-partner, that is one of the most common phrases for breaking up and you can use it, if you do not know what else you can do. 6. Make audio tape or CD for your partner. That is a romantic way to break up and you will leave better impression to your ex-partner. There are a lot of songs that you can include and all of them will say that you want to break up with him or her. However, there is a serious chance that your partner will not get the message. 7. Start dating her or his friend. That is probably the most effective way to break up, but have in mind that you will make the relationship between your partner and his or her friend really bad. On the other hand you will not have to think of some reasons, why you want to break up with her. 8. Call and tell her how you feel. That is very suitable for all the people, who simply do not have the courage to break up face-to-face. Remember that you will have to think of at least one good reason, why you want to break up with your partner, because otherwise you risk becoming the laughing stock of the whole town. 9. Tell someone to tell your partner that you want to break up. However that is probably the most pathetic way to break up with someone and my advice is to use it only if you haven’t been able to succeed using all the other methods for breaking up, but have in mind that even e-mail breaking is better. 10. Draw her comic book, where you will break up with her. Although that it may sound really funny, that is one the best ways to break up with somebody and you will be able to do it in a very good manner. Furthermore, you will not make your ex-partner hate you and you will be able to leave a good impression to him or her.

How Long Distance Relationships Work

Whether you’ve just dipped your toe into the long-distance relationship pool, or you’re currently trying to find ways to strengthen and prolong it, keep reading for tips from a real-life couple who is making it work one day at a time.

In the coming weeks we’ll be asking one half of a real-life couple to share his/her experience: What it takes to be in a long distance relationship, how they make it work as a couple and their long-term relationship goals.

This week we talk to Andrea Rosenfeld, an artist who’s been in a long-distance relationship for one and a half years. Rosenfeld and her significant other are both divorced, older (mid to upper 40′s) so they have “been there, done that” and both have children.

How many years have you been involved in a long distance relationship?

We are both in our late 40′s. He and I grew up together (middle school, high school and went to the same temple) but we weren’t friends – just knew of each other. We reconnected on Facebook last January and our first date was in March of that same year.

How often do you get to see each other face to face?

We try to see each other once a month for a weekend (Friday afternoon till Sunday afternoon) but it’s expensive so it’s more like every month-and-a-half or so. Luckily my parents are still in Michigan and I stay in their home so they sometimes will pay for me to fly home. Even when I go home for a week or more, I’m with my parents and family. So we see each other but it’s just snippets of time.

What are some ways you spend your time apart connecting?

I am VERY lucky that he is extremely communicative and caring. We do not Skype nor webcam (he wants to see me in person) but we do e-mail, text and talk on the phone quite a bit throughout each day. We say goodnight to each other every single night. We have a movie “date” every weekend. He sits at his computer and I sit at mine with our phones, wine and popcorn and we synch and watch a movie, “together”. However sometimes he’ll fall asleep and I won’t know! Ha!

We send images of our lunch or a book we bought. We will send videos of our children or an event we are attending. We work hard to include each other in our daily lives. We talk about our children and our businesses and the Tigers or the Red Wings. We connect by talking about places in Michigan or friends that we share. We share books that we’ve read and I’ve made jewelry for him (I’m a jewelry artist) and he’s gone as far as sending me a sweaty shirt that he just worked out in (yes I loved it!). We are both quirky.

The one thing that is VERY difficult is that we both have to be ON. There is no silence, holding hands or just being NEAR each other. We are always communicating and it can get exhausting.

Are you monogamous – and if so – how do you avoid temptation?

I am human so I notice a handsome man but I know who Phil is. We “get” each other and accept everything about one another. We are each other’s balance. He’s open minded and not defensive. He listens to me, remembers what I say, cares about my children (which is huge to me and he’s the only man I ever dated who actually asks about them). He respects me and puts me first, as I do for him (although our children are really first).

He shares my goals and he makes me laugh every single solitary day. He is generous with his time and loves to do little things for me. Neither of us are perfect, but I know that no matter what other men speak to me or try to date me, they will never be who Phil is to me right now. I know how hard it is to find someone who is this right and this wonderful and we are growing together, emotionally. That is very special.

What is your biggest piece of advice for couples entering into a long distance relationship?

Communicate as much as you both are comfortable doing and in different ways. Try to involve each other in your lives and don’t make the relationship about flirting and phone sex. If it’s a real relationship, it will be about connection and emotional growth. The physical intimacy will be so much better if you can truly be best friends first.

Being in a long distance relationship gives you the perfect opportunity to learn about the other person without the physical getting in the way. Another piece of advice is to really listen to the other person when they speak. You don’t have the visual cues to help you decipher their emotions. Put your wall down and listen to why they said what they did. Talk (that can be hard for men).

Do you have any plans to get married?

Ha! I do but he has been divorced for a shorter period of time than I have and he isn’t ready for that yet. I’m not rushing our relationship. I still have to move me and my children back home to Michigan, rent my own place and he and I have to date for real. We have to spend the normal amount of time together and make sure that our relationship can continue to grow and we don’t kill each other. Once we can do that, then we can move our families in together and then maybe he’ll be ready.

Basically, I told him that I want to get married again and if he doesn’t want to that I will marry someone else but I said it with a glimmer in my eye. He said that if he were to get married again, it would be to me. I’m comfortable with us and I know how much he loves me. We will cross that bridge when we come to it. It’s all a wonderful, exciting process. We have a long way to go and I want to enjoy every bit of it.

How to Tell if a Guy Likes You

Men seem to think that they are hard to read and even harder to figure out. However, if you have had any experience with men in general you will find that men are very easy to understand. For the most part, you can tell if a guy likes you by his body language and not so much by his words. If a guy stands close to you in a social setting, like what your best friend would; close enough to accidentally touch you, he likes you.

If a guy finds reasons during your conversation to lean in close to tell you something that is not a secret, he likes you. The one exception to this rule is gay men, as they will treat you like a girlfriend would but mean nothing at all by it. If a guy sits close enough to rub elbows with you when there is plenty of room in the area to sit down, he likes you. If a guy comments on your hair, he really likes you. Men don’t normally care what a girl’s hair looks like, so this means he is looking for an excuse to say something nice to you.

When you are talking, if a guy looks more at your chest than at your face he does not like you, but he likes your body; stay away from this guy. If a guy will go to a chick flick with you and does not complain, he likes you. If a guy passes up time hanging out with his friends to come sit with you while you are studying, he likes you. If a guy waits for you outside of class without his friends, he likes you.

If you tell a guy you like him, and he asks for your phone number he likes you. If a guy leaves you gifts at your locker at school, he likes you. When hanging out with your friends, if a guy walks over into the crowd of girls and says something nice about one of them just to get on your good side, he likes you.

One of my greatest fears was never finding true love and end up in an unfulfilling relationship or even worse end up alone.